The Book of Mormon
- Emily Maynard and Jef Holm Celebrate Their Engagement
Many have questioned where Jef came up with the term, “Bridle Your Passion.” They also question how much of a Mormon he is. Jef has made several statements about his faith. They include how his faith is important to him and he still goes to church. I would not to be surprised if he is not involved with the youth in some way.
Although he may not follow everything the Church says to the letter, his basic value and belief system has been shaped by his parents and his upbringing in the church. In most churches, children start Sunday School at an early age. I started at age 3 and went all the way to high school. The teachings and the right way of living are learned and built upon over time. I cannot imagine that he did not go to Sunday School.
And partly because of Jef’s upbringing, he truly values family and all that it stands for.
Family, children, and chastity, are very important in the Mormon church. I have one family member who is Mormon and many friends who are.
Besides being something to put over a horse, bridle also means to curb or put in check. Thus his statement fits Fantasy Suite night. The scripture is: “Use boldness, not over bearance; and also bridle all your passions, that ye may be filled with love, see that ye refrain from idleness.” Alma 38:12
When it was time for Emily to give the card about the fantasy suite, I sensed a hesitation on her part, almost embarrassed to give it to him, asking, “What do you think?”
Jef replied, “I think it would be awesome to forego our individual rooms, but I understand and respect that your daughter and my family will be watching this. They’re involved in this process too. There’s a time and a place. I plan on spending every night with you in our own fantasy suite”
Emily, “I’m thankful that you responded that way. You’re always a gentleman…I want to spend more time with you, but I can’t spend the night.”
Later, after they were talking in the fantasy suite, they enjoyed the romantic setting. They agreed it would be a wonderful place to spend the night. It was at this point that Jef used the term, “Bridle.” He said, “There’s a time and a time and place for everything. And right now, it’s time for us to bridle these passions.”
Jef and Emily are also choosing not to live together until they are married. When they were on “Good Morning,” it was assumed they would be living together. Jef set them straight. There would be no moving in until married.
Here is more Information About the Importance of the Family – Family Proclamation 1995
“The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman are essential to his eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in a family is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained in principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities…”
All Mormon Sources from Mormon.org.